Comments on: You Are Who You Hang With http://joel-mark-witt.com/blog/2010/you-are-who-you-hang-with/ Meaningful Lives Don't Happen By Accident Sun, 13 Mar 2011 01:24:23 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: joelmarkwitt http://joel-mark-witt.com/blog/2010/you-are-who-you-hang-with/comment-page-1/#comment-3299 joelmarkwitt Wed, 05 May 2010 20:20:26 +0000 http://joel-mark-witt.com/blog/?p=1088#comment-3299 Great thoughts Colin. You're right - balance is needed. I guess I see SO much negativity in the news, on TV, on the radio, and then on all the social media networks. It can't be good for us on a deep psychological level. We need to figure out ways to begin looking for the positive in life - right? Great thoughts Colin. You're right – balance is needed. I guess I see SO much negativity in the news, on TV, on the radio, and then on all the social media networks. It can't be good for us on a deep psychological level. We need to figure out ways to begin looking for the positive in life – right?

]]> By: Colin Devroe http://joel-mark-witt.com/blog/2010/you-are-who-you-hang-with/comment-page-1/#comment-3297 Colin Devroe Mon, 03 May 2010 13:10:25 +0000 http://joel-mark-witt.com/blog/?p=1088#comment-3297 Good post but I believe there is a balance required here. In some cases if someone you are choosing to 'hang' with becomes a negative influence - I'd definitely suggest walking away - but if you could somehow become a positive influence you may want to choose to do that for them.<br><br>I believe life to be more of a give and take then all give or all take. There are times when I need support and times when I'm able to give it. I think that's the same for all. <br><br>While I choose not to 'hang' with anyone that would work against my goals and be a willing negative influence on me I'm always willing to 'hang' with those in need if I'm able to give it. I base this mostly on two verses in Proverbs that I compare.<br><br>(If you'll forgive me quoting scripture here, since I usually do not do so, I think you'll see that they fit rather nicely. Whether or not one believes the Bible it does hold many gems.)<br><br>Proverbs 13:20 "He that is walking with wise persons will become wise, but he that is having dealings with the stupid ones will fare badly." -- So, choose your friends wisely. Which is what you're doing. But you also have to keep in mind you could be one of the wise ones. ;)<br><br>Compare with Proverbs 3:27 "Do not hold back good from those to whom it is owing, when it happens to be in the power of your hand to do it." - Meaning, give generously to those in need. If you're able to help someone and you're willfuly ignoring that opportunity I would suggest you do the opposite.<br><br>Both of these verses are quoted from the New World Translation of the Bible btw.<br><br>Again, this is all about balance. If you try to help someone and they simply won't accept it you have to know when to take your leave. I think you have the right attitude about keeping yourself away from people that don't have your same goals - just try to help them if you can and if they'll accept it. Good post but I believe there is a balance required here. In some cases if someone you are choosing to 'hang' with becomes a negative influence – I'd definitely suggest walking away – but if you could somehow become a positive influence you may want to choose to do that for them.

I believe life to be more of a give and take then all give or all take. There are times when I need support and times when I'm able to give it. I think that's the same for all.

While I choose not to 'hang' with anyone that would work against my goals and be a willing negative influence on me I'm always willing to 'hang' with those in need if I'm able to give it. I base this mostly on two verses in Proverbs that I compare.

(If you'll forgive me quoting scripture here, since I usually do not do so, I think you'll see that they fit rather nicely. Whether or not one believes the Bible it does hold many gems.)

Proverbs 13:20 “He that is walking with wise persons will become wise, but he that is having dealings with the stupid ones will fare badly.” — So, choose your friends wisely. Which is what you're doing. But you also have to keep in mind you could be one of the wise ones. ;)

Compare with Proverbs 3:27 “Do not hold back good from those to whom it is owing, when it happens to be in the power of your hand to do it.” – Meaning, give generously to those in need. If you're able to help someone and you're willfuly ignoring that opportunity I would suggest you do the opposite.

Both of these verses are quoted from the New World Translation of the Bible btw.

Again, this is all about balance. If you try to help someone and they simply won't accept it you have to know when to take your leave. I think you have the right attitude about keeping yourself away from people that don't have your same goals – just try to help them if you can and if they'll accept it.

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